“When you speak about what’s happening in your own body, you’re bringing awareness to it,” says Jaiya.“On top of that, you’re arousing him even more, because he’s thinking, ‘Yes!I’m turning her on.’ That makes him feel more confident.” We call that a win-win.Even if your guy spouts off dirty words with ease (and even if you feel totally awkward), you may have a leg up.When it comes to sounding sultry, women can easily sex-up the sound of their voice, while men simply cannot, according to a new Albright College study.(In fact, guys were actually seen as less attractive when they tried to sound sexy.)The downside?Just because you have a natural oral ability (hello, raspy bedroom voice!RELATED: The Surefire Secret to Better Sex Do: Discover His Trigger Words Chances are, your guy has a specific term for his penis—as well as for sexual acts, like intercourse and oral—that turn him on the most.
“Start by sending dirty text messages back and forth,” suggests Ruth Neustifter, Ph. “This is a great way to figure out what words he likes.” Your line: “I can’t to see you tonight.Tell me all the places you want me to touch you.” He’ll use the words he finds most erotic, helping you create your bedroom vocab. ]Do: Update Him on Your Arousal“I’m so wet right now.” “I’m about to come.” “You feel incredible inside me.” These moment-by-moment updates help you tune into your own arousal—an often-difficult task for us—while giving him an erotic earful.) doesn’t mean you know which words will put you both in the mood.“Women feel silly talking dirty,” says Jaiya, a sex educator and author of .“Because they don’t know what to say, they get tripped up.”But when you do know what to say? That’s why we've gathered a few basic guidelines to help you tap into your inner dirty girl.